Generation Y, that's us. We are the most privileged generation, because we do not know wars or epidemics beyond movies. We did not have to fight for sitting at the same table as others. We have been privileged, at least in my opinion we are. We got to live in comfortable homes, with sufficient food, and clothes on our bodies. We didn't have to fight for the basic amenities. Some of us even got quality education or an IQ or big money for donations and hence the college degrees as well. Earning well, living well, partying well, travelling, shopping. A life for which we studied, we pushed hard for this, our previous generations pushed hard for this. We are a generation of entrepreneurs. We are the generation of work hard and party harder. We have our "cool" lives and "cooler" vices.
But we are also a generation of stressed, sad, insecure and downright depressed people. Surprising in't it? Yet not so surprising, you might be one of the very few lucky ones or one of the very few of Generation Y who have cracked the code of happiness and balance in that case stop reading this blog and start writing your own so that people like us could learn from that, as for the rest of you miserable folks who sail in the same boat as me, keep on reading.
Everywhere I look around me, every person I see or talk to is sad/depressed about something (example: breakups( all time winner on the causes of sadness list), jobs/career, family, not travelling enough). Well I am not going to list all the causes you've been there you get it. If someone is not sad then that person is simply so insecure to be himself/herself because he/she is just terrified of failing and more than failing being mocked, of not being cool enough to fit in. And then there are are people who say I am not sad but I am not happy either, I just don't know, I don't feel motivated or I feel lonely or something like that.
We are a generation of people who need to pretend to be having an amazing life while being all fucked up because its not cool to be vulnerable. Its not cool to have problems, its not cool to have emotions. And especially when you see everyone around you having an amazing time with insta-perfect pictures and captions overflowing with declarations of love and happiness and friendship and you are sitting there sulking and thinking and cursing yourself that somehow it is your fault, all that is wrong is your fault because you are somehow inadequate and that is why your life is fucked up. And so you bottle it all inside, slap on your brightest smile, and you are ready, for a insta-perfect picture, with a great caption and everything.
Somewhere in this rat-race of privileged life and for privileged life we were subconsciously/consciously trained to run so fast as to leave all this vulnerability and emotions behind because there is no place for vulnerability or weakness (yeah I just used them as synonyms, isn't that correct?) in this world, because you'll be eaten alive if you don't man up. But you know, what was the goal we were running for? Some of us are lucky enough to know the goal, some of us have not yet realized it, but as per my knowledge the goal is a happy and comfortable life. Well let me ask you this - what do you have right now? How will the future be any better than it is now. You do have all the ingredients right now, what makes you think that if you are not competent enough or worthy enough or whatever reason you give yourself to not be happy and satisfied or comfortable with your life, you will be in future?
Don't get me wrong, I am not against achieving more or wanting to achieve more, I am all for it. I am against the idea that we carry around that somehow if we get our dream job, or if we achieve our target weight, if we get into a relationship, or if we get a better group of friends or whatever that we'll be happier. Happiness is not absence of need/want for better life, happiness is acceptance. Accepting of what you have. Happiness is also gratitude for what you have and what you don't have. Happiness is knowing that you lost something that you shouldn't have and being OK with it, because you also got something that you shouldn't have. It is in your own hands, nothing and no one can make you feel good about you and your life till you are not OK with it or better yet thankful for it.
Well, I hope this post helps anyone who reads it, if it doesn't I don't care ( don't get me wrong, I need to be cool about it).
Happy Living!
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