How many times have you heard or read somewhere, that it is wrong to expect anything from anyone? How many times have you consoled yourself by saying that you expected too much and that is why you are disappointed. But is it really your fault that you expect from people? Is it wrong to believe that people are capable of love or trust or friendship? How is it your fault, that the other person didn't hold his/her end of the bargain.
In my opinion, "You shouldn't expect anything from anyone" is a concept created by those people who just need a lame excuse to extract everything out of other people around them and just walk away when it's their turn to do something. It is just another way of getting away after doing something selfish or insensitive.
But if you are a person like me, who has consoled himself/herself by saying it's your fault, you never learn that you should not expect. Stop right now, because why shouldn't you expect? There is a reason you expect, right? You are not a mad, desperate person who is just running around expecting people to cross oceans for you, you are a reasonable person and you expect because you did something for that person, you expect because that person promised you implicitly through his/her gestures and behaviors that he/she is going to be there for you and if this person was not there for you and you are blaming yourself, don't! Because it is not your fault, it never was.
But do learn one thing, learn whom to expect from, choose your people wisely. Choose who you are willing to place your trust in, choose who is worthy of your love and friendship and your efforts. You should be the one deciding to what extent you should be pushing yourselves for lovers, friends, family. Because end of the day it's you who'll be disappointed if you don't make the right choice, if you don't make a wise choice or if you decide in haste. Take all the time you need but choose wisely and if even after such careful contemplation, people do end up disappointing you which they will (because how can it be that simple) don't ever blame yourself, it was never your fault, how can it be your fault if all you ever did was to be there for people you love and expect the same from them. And let me tell you this, the conversion rate on expectations is very low i.e if you place your trust in 10 people and expect from them to show up and if you are lucky then you are going to be disappointed by only 9 of them, but once in a while one out of every ten people will reciprocate your expectations, they'll appreciate your beautiful heart and that'll make all the difference, because this bargain is more than worth it and this how amazing people like you find amazing people like me(don't deny that now). Also, learn from your mistakes, don't keep on giving third and fourth chances and if you do want to give out those chances give those to yourself by telling yourself you deserve not to be disappointed, you deserve better. Also, do you remember that bitch named Karma, well it does exist and it's pretty good at it's job so leave all the rest to it and you do your thing.
Happy Expectations!
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