This 14th February, everywhere I looked I saw happy faces so much in love, long declarations of love, Ed Sheeran's Perfect playing in cafes and lovey dovey captions. Pardon my cynicism if you can, if you can't well this isn't a post for the weak-hearted anyway.
It's not just sitting on the outskirts and commenting on people who try to do something which I am pouring here in this post. This post is a result of personal experiences I have had as a friend, as a girlfriend and as a shoulder to my dearest friends grieving over failed relationships and broken hearts.
This got me thinking how do some couples have it all figured out and some just can't face the test of time.
Does the guy buy more flowers and chocolates, is he more understanding and caring or the girl is more sensible and gives him space or cooks perfect meal? Because I have seen it, I have seen two perfect people, two amazing people not being able to make a relationship work. What is the magic ingredient? Well, according to me it is COMPATIBILITY.
Yep, that's a big word but it's just that much easier when you have compatibility because everything just fits like two pieces of puzzle who belong to each other. People might argue that love is beautiful and it is so powerful it can change people and blah I know all those arguments, I have used those arguments myself at one point of time but the truth is: I realized that if you need the power of love to change someone then answer me this do you really love that person ? Or you just see the potential and you want to be with the modified version of that person because that suits your requirements? Where is love in changing the person you love?
And let's face it guys, love can ignite a fire in you, it can light up a passion in you but for how long and till when? When the curtains are down and the lights are out, you need someone in your life who just gets you without having to explain your every action and every reaction. No! The other person can not have magical abilities, it is cruel of you to expect the other person to just understand you when you have such opposite personalities. When you have different ways of expressing love, anger, happiness, hatred. When your meaning of caring for someone is different, when your idea of entertainment is different, when your idea of good evening is different. When your dreams are different. When your idea of home and happiness is different. How do you expect both of you to be happy with the same things?
I feel, it's better to be with someone who you are compatible with than to be with the one you love and are not compatible with. Because love can stem from compatibility because you will be able to share moments of sheer joy and mutual happiness but love can not give birth to compatibility because you will be modifying the other person for your selfish motive and that is not the person you fell in love with.
If you are someone who is facing this tough choice, I wish you all the luck(if you choose COMPATIBILITY, so that you are lucky enough to find your puzzle piece) and strength(if you choose LOVE, to be able to sustain and help each other to be more compatible).
Happy Living, Happy Loving !
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